Love Sober Podcast
Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Seven 21 02 2020

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Seven 21 02 2020

February 21, 2020

Episode 67

In this episode we discuss what comes up for a lot of people we talk to and our clients, the transitions between the roles we play, we are thrown from career person to parent to child to spouse, often without a moment to breathe and we have gotten used to using alcohol to ease the transition or temporarily calm the nervous system. So we have a chat about this, our it affects us personally, what tips or tricks we can employ to regulate, pause and not reach for the bottle.  So grab a cuppa and let's chat x

Love Sober Episode Sixty Six 14 02 2020

Love Sober Episode Sixty Six 14 02 2020

February 14, 2020

This week on the pod we are delighted to welcome Sam Quinlan, Founder of ICAAD. Sam is a real sobershero having worked in the field of mental health, addiction and recovery for many years.

Samantha once dreamed of being a performer; however a un-nurturing culture back in the 80s saw her being stigmatised as fat, and unsuitable to be a performer, after a performing arts school misused her vocal abilities, and she suffered from overused vocal cords, that ruined her voice and prospective career in musical theatre.

She went on to train at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts in production and stage management, and In the 1990s she began her mission to provide for others a nourishing and safe environment for creatives and those that had something to say, unlike her experience which left her full of shame and the burden of failure. Samantha founded the Brighton & Hove Fringe Festival, a yearly festival promoting talent and desire through arts, sports and outreach activities to include families and young people, reaching a wide audience and increasing the tourist footprint of the city. The festival is a leading event in the cultural calendar.

In 2001 after fighting her demons she acknowledged she was an alcoholic and sought treatment and has for the last 16 years been sober and drug-free and an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous. Samantha Quinlan has worked in the Behavioural Mental and Emotional Health sector for 15 years and is a founder of iCAAD. The International Conferences for Addiction and Associated Disorders, she programmes and directs conferences for professionals and the general public across Europe and the UK.

Samantha founded the Leading Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (LEAP) charity, alongside starting a residential addictions facility in 2003. She completed a foundation degree in general counselling in 2012. She is also a qualified facilitator of Equine Therapy. She has devised and delivered programs for vulnerable adults and young people, adolescents with extreme childhood trauma, workplace leadership and solutions and adults with learning disabilities.

Sam is committed to her personal development and leadership skills and regularly attends conferences and intensive courses, including the LCP at ONSITE workshops.

She sits as co-chair on the UFENow ethics committee as the co-chair to the “International Collaborative Committee (Cultural, Migration and International Ethical Issues)” and she is on the fundraising committee of International Animal Rescue.

In 2008 Samantha became a live kidney donor and today is happy to report the father to her children is alive and healthy, she believes this is nothing short of a miracle considering her history as an alcoholic and feels blessed that she has been able to be of services for the greater good.

Over the years Samantha has in her own time and as a volunteer, helped support 100s of people some referred to sober support, some treatment and others to therapists across all Behavioural Mental and Emotional health care issues. She reflects that when she needed help, she felt she was one of a lucky few and was able to access help without charge or bias, so today she strives to connect those in need to the right help or to signpost them to organisations that can help.

Samantha believes that many people in the UK do not know where they can go to get help and support but is hugely in favour of the sober movement and the stamping out of stigma she tries through iCAAD to offer clear signposts for those that are displaced, or struggling or isolated, and she hopes that through her work and iCAAD, that families and professionals may learn about and get the help they need. She would love for more of the general public to attend iCAAD x

In her spare time, she likes to build theatre sets and would one day love to perform again!

Sam would like to offer these  words of encouragement with other women in the world?

When the whole world looks dark and those around you can not find a good word to say about you, when their cruel words keep on digging deeper under your skin and when no one can see you are crumbling and screaming inside. Turn around and start walking, keep on walking until you face someone and say can you help me, and if at first you don’t get heard, don’t give up, keep on asking for help; eventually, you will be heard and held. I promise x

This episode is an absolute gem and we really encourage you to check out the amazing resources, blogs and conferences at www.icaad.com and Kate and Mandy will be presenting at ICAAD London, we would love to see you there, so grab a cuppa and let's chat.

 

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Five 06 02 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Five 06 02 20

February 7, 2020
This week’s podcast we talk about Self Love. It’s not easy to deconstruct the process of where we are now and where we were. To that place of deep self loathing and crippling low self worth. To both be able to say, I love myself and I am my own best friend.
 
For us the catalyst is and always has been stopping drinking that fundamental decision of self love, the consistency it has brought, the self-trust and pride is for us the key to self love. We talk about how guided meditation and working with a therapist can help, letting go of Shame and watching out for proof of the things we do well.
 
So grab a cuppa and let’s chat. 
 
Resources mentioned:
Calm - Self Love daily meditations.
Tara Brach - The Rain of Self compassion. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxfmarLIBo0
Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Four 31 01 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Four 31 01 20

January 31, 2020

This episode maybe what you technically call a rant lols. We just had to get something out and that’s Mum shaming.

It’s happened to so many of us, everyone seems to have an opinion about mothers, and everything seems to be laid at our doors, attachment, our kids mental health, mothers are under enormous pressure and we are trying our best to get it right, but what if there are huge gaps in this conversation? What if the conversation needs an update? What if what modern mothers need is support?

We know how impactful childhoods can be, but how about shifting to focus on everyone’s role? Societies role? How about women supporting women, and us moving towards a narrative that puts mothers in the firing line.

This is very much an opinion piece, but it’s our story and we don’t think we’re alone. So apologies for the swears, grab a cuppa and let’s chat.

 
Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Three 24 01 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Three 24 01 20

January 24, 2020
This week we had the absolute pleasure of talking creativity and recovery with Tammi Salas. 
Tammi hasn’t had a drink since February 3, 2015. She is a former wine bar owner, lifelong seeker + recovering perfectionist. She is an artist, teacher, self-proclaimed late-bloomer and co-host of The Unruffled Podcast, a weekly podcast that explores all topics relating to the intersection of creativity and recovery. 

In sobriety, she re-enrolled in college and declared art as her major at age 44. She makes art everyday and credits this practice as the path to her spiritual overhaul and creative awakening.

Tammi has self-published a book all about finding her visual voice through her daily gratitude practice, which she’s maintained for over four years. And, she shares her creative and personal pursuits, as well as her struggles and successes with sobriety. You can learn more at www.tammisalas.com or follow her on Instagram @tammisalas.
 
Grab a cuppa and let’s chat, it’s a good one :-)

 

Links:
Instagram: @tammisalas
Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Two 10 01 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Two 10 01 20

January 10, 2020

Episode 62:

We are delighted to welcome Simon Chapple on the pod this week. Simon Chapple is the founder of Be Sober, the author of The Sober Survival Guide and a senior alcohol coach for This Naked Mind. He has made it his life mission to spread the word about the benefits of an alcohol-free life and has helped thousands of people change their relationship with drinking. This was SOOO good, we chatted through strategies for people starting out in sobriety how to view sobriety as an exploration and to be your own detective, write about your experiences, add in rather than relying on Willpower alone. We talked personally about what sobriety has brought to Simon especially in his relationships with his wife and son. We talk about his journey which is very inspirational! We also talk about barriers to men getting help in Sobriety and his mission to change that which is fantastic. We really enjoyed this, so grab a cuppa and let's chat.

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty One 03 01 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty One 03 01 20

January 3, 2020
Welcome back and Happy New Year!  This episode is a quick check in with each other. We have lots of exciting projects on the go so we talk through these..
 
• Our new Facebook community https://www.facebook.com/groups/love.sober.co 
 
• We have our 30 day programme to kick start your sobriety journey available on our website www.lovesober.com
 
• We are also hosting a panel at the Club Soda Mindful Drinking Festival on the 18th January https://mindfuldrinkingfestival.com/talks-january-2020/
 
• We have our second edition of Create & Thrive with Sharon Walters https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/love-sober-life-create-and-thrive-with-sharon-walters-tickets-77874549875
 
AND...
 
• Kate will soon be on the She Recovers Podcast! 
 
We talk New Year why we love sobriety and what our Word of the Year is. So grab a cuppa and let's chat X
Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty 27 12 19

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty 27 12 19

December 27, 2019

We are delighted to end 2019 with a very special guest @tarynstrong

Taryn is the co-founder of @she_recovers the international women’s recovery movement with her mother @recoveringdawn Taryn is also a qualified yoga teacher and aromatherapist and runs the She Recovers Yoga teacher training program and online yoga classes.

It was wonderful to hear her incredibly inspiring and open hearted story of recovery, the dynamics of mother and daughter relationships, the work of She Recovers of which we will be helping to develop as designated SR coaches for the UK.

We talk the new year, how important the body is in recovery and being trauma informed how SR isn’t just for women in recovery from substance abuse but all women who are recovering from something. We talk her morning routine, setting intentions and the importance of self-care.

It was truly a joy to speak to her, we are sure you will enjoy this gem. So grab a cuppa and let’s chat.

Happy New Year everyone XXX

Love Sober Podcast Episode Fifty Nine 20 12 19

Love Sober Podcast Episode Fifty Nine 20 12 19

December 20, 2019

In our final episode sponsored by @sainsburys - We talk the Big Day - and We’re dreaming of an alcohol free Xmas!!
In this episode, we focus on how to do Xmas and Eve and Day. This is a massive fear for many of us so we talk overwhelm, delegating, prep and basically self management to avoid trigger moments. Part of this is making sure you are prepped with stuff for Xmas alcohol free wise. We break down the evening and day to identify pressure spots and to plan for alternatives. We will talk about other non-traditional Xmases too...If you choose to do something different.  It's all about reframing our experiences remembering what we can and can't change and knowing that come January everyone will be doing Dry January and we will already be a step ahead.

Sainsbury's has a free drink for you to try - Follow the link here https://www.sainsburys.co.uk/freemule  and read the T&C - we chose this drink ourselves for you guys as it's versatile and deliciously fresh, so happy Xmas from us and from Sainsbury's!!!

Love Sober Podcast Episode Fifty Eight 13 12 2019

Love Sober Podcast Episode Fifty Eight 13 12 2019

December 13, 2019

This week, our second special episode sponsored by Sainsbury's we talk to our friend and very inspirational woman @milliegooch Millie Gooch is a writer, speaker and founder of Sober Girl Society @sobergirlsociety - an online and real-life network of independent not gin-dependent women. She gave up drinking in Feb 2018 after noticing how her party girl binge-drinking was negatively impacting her mental health and 7 months later started Sober Girl Society to show girls like her that you can still be young, wild and hangover-free! With Millie we talk through her experiences with alcohol and how brilliant it is for us as mums to see someone empowering young women. To have someone on social media who is really living and loving her life sober AND social and encouraging women to ask themselves better questions about alcohol in their lives is FABULOUS. Well done Millie and THANK YOU for all the work you do.

We talk bossing the party season with lots of tips, and drink recommendations - Millie co-hosted @sainsburys pop-up pub the Clean Vic this summer so we discuss mixology and the brilliant range there is now. We discuss what else you can do which is social and yet not booze-focus... ever heard of Massaoke? (Look it up!) Its a great chat, so grab yourself a AF cocktail and let's chat x

Sainsbury's has a free drink for you to try - Follow the link here https://www.sainsburys.co.uk/freemule  and read the T&C - we chose this drink ourselves for you guys as it's versatile and deliciously fresh, so happy Xmas from us and from Sainsbury's!!!