Love Sober Podcast
Love Sober Podcast Episode Seventy Two 25/03/2020

Love Sober Podcast Episode Seventy Two 25/03/2020

March 27, 2020

In this week's episode we talk to sober sister and Empowerment Coach, Polly Jukes about her decision to go alcohol free and the journey of self-discovery that has unfolded since that key decision. She shares coaching tips and real life experience for coping in times of heightened anxiety. 

Polly is an accredited life coach with lots of other qualifications, including NLP, Reiki and mBIT. She has overcome trauma and  adversity and says her choice to be alcohol-free has improved every aspect of her life

Polly says' I am passionate about educating you that there is another way to think, feel and behave. So you can live the life you want by stepping into self-empowerment. Then you can wholeheartedly feel you are enough as this what everyone deserves regardless of their past or life experience.'

Find out more about Polly at : 

Love Sober Podcast Episode Seventy One 20.3.20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Seventy One 20.3.20

March 20, 2020

In this episode we talk more about tools and practices to support sobriety, mental health and wellbeing during challenging times. Using our B.A.L.A.N.C.E.D.™ model we explore our ideas and practices for thriving and coping with challenges. These are dear to our heart and they have come from the gentle enquiry (or total freak out) of early sobriety as we suddenly think " What the F am I actually doing ???? and how the FFFF do I do it' They are backed up by our studies in The Science of Happiness, training as coaches, private study, the hive mind of the sober community and from walking the walk since we began our sober journeys 7 years ago. 

Body: nutrition, somatics, physical exercise, caring for our physical selves.

Awe: Practices that connect us to something greater- nature, community, the night sky, ritual or wonder. 

Love: Ourselves, self care practice, self-compassion, compassion, loved ones, what we love. 

Alignment: Works with our 'why' our values which tend to surface in sobriety as we can hear the whispers of our hearts and find the agency to work with them. 

Nurture: Feeding ourselves , our minds and hearts with knowledge, creativity and inspiration as we ask 'What do I really need?' 

Connection : Community and the ways we connect with loved ones and our tribe, the importance of honouring our pro-social natures to co-regulate and belong. 

Enjoyment: Fun, laughter, shits n giggles, creativity, bungee jumping etc .. what lights you up? The importance of a variety diet of happy hits to keep us from feeling deprived. All work and no play making Jackie a dull girl etc....

Drive: Direction, true north and our spirits and energy that keep us moving towards our goals and fullfilling our dreams and sense of purpose. 

Grab a cuppa and let's chat.

Love Kate and Mandy 

 

Love Sober Podcast Episode Seventy 13 03 2020

Love Sober Podcast Episode Seventy 13 03 2020

March 13, 2020

Episode 70.

This week we talk anxiety in light of the current world situation and especially in relation to media panic. There is a real need to work together, look after each other, regulate our nervous systems and protect our sobriety when anxiety kicks off, so we unpick how we feel at the moment and what strategies we are employing to get through this uncertain time. So grab a cuppa, snuggle up and let's chat this one through, with love from us. K & M xx

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Nine 06 03 2020

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Nine 06 03 2020

March 6, 2020

This week Mandy is joined on the pod by Lisa and Alex from Sober Experiment. It was such a great chat, we discussed familys, life, drinking, trauma and the adverse childhood experiences that perhaps are behind why we numb out with alcohol and the power of really healing. We talk about their brilliant work within the workplace to invite the sober curious for a sober experiment and all the work they are doing. Including their event at Redemption on March 28th with guest speakers, Simon Chappel, Sober Dave, William Porter and Mandy https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/the-sober-experiment-uk-tour-london-tickets-88427939347?aff=ebdssbeac sponsored by Vibe Drinks.

Their friendship is a beautiful thing to witness, and there is nothing better than listening to people's stories, being in awe of their bravery, spirit and journey, we really enjoyed this chat and we know you will too, so grab a cuppa and let's chat. X

Learn more about Alex and Lisa on their website www.soberexperiment.co.uk The Sober Experiment was founded by Alex and Lisa, best friends for almost 30 years. They have worked together, drank together, emigrated together and after a short period of time spent on their own life journeys, have now embarked on a sober experiment together.

Despite both having successful careers and settling down to family life, both had been using alcohol as a crutch for all sorts of relatively ‘normal’ reasons, alcohol began to play too much of a part in their everyday lives. One morning, Lisa called Alex to announce she was experimenting with sobriety for 100 days.  A year later, after Lisa had decided sobriety was a permanent fixture, Alex joined her.  Together they have shared experiences beyond their wildest dreams and decided sobriety was just too good to keep to themselves.

They both realised that it wasn’t necessary to be labelled alcoholic in order to want to improve your lifestyle and become a healthier version of yourself.  Through shared and different life experiences, they realised that although on the same journey, their pasts and present situations were so different that they could touch the hearts and minds of so many different people and turn their negative past into help for others. 

They agreed that change was needed and wanted to create a platform where the stigma surrounding alcohol and alcoholism could be removed.  The Sober Experiment was born and in such a short amount of time, they have been able to bring their services to help others.  As an IPHM accredited training provider, The Sober Experiment now works interactively with groups of people in the workplace to allow them to ask anything and say anything in a safe environment with no stigma attached.  Alex and Lisa ensure everyone they touch has a raised awareness surrounding the impact of alcohol on wellbeing, from CEOs to Managers to Staff to Students, and provide the tools to allow people to support others by knowing how to identify and refer concerns.

So many people use alcohol along life’s pathway.  From wetting the baby’s head, to raising a glass at a funeral but the conversation of alcohol as an addictive substance is avoided until it is too late.  Alex and Lisa want to change this and start having these conversations before a person becomes addicted. The Sober Experiment provides a safe space and support for everyone who chooses not to drink alcohol (either for social, religious, cultural or personal reasons) for people to be a part of and to talk without the fear of being labelled and encourage open and honest conversations. 

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Eight 28 02 2020

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Eight 28 02 2020

February 28, 2020

Ep 68

This week we talk through the rather sticky subject of comfort zones, are they good? Do they hold us back? When to push them and when to retreat, it's not always easy to know and so we mull this over and how we can help ourselves if we feel stuck in a rut. So grab a cuppa and let's chat x

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Seven 21 02 2020

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Seven 21 02 2020

February 21, 2020

Episode 67

In this episode we discuss what comes up for a lot of people we talk to and our clients, the transitions between the roles we play, we are thrown from career person to parent to child to spouse, often without a moment to breathe and we have gotten used to using alcohol to ease the transition or temporarily calm the nervous system. So we have a chat about this, our it affects us personally, what tips or tricks we can employ to regulate, pause and not reach for the bottle.  So grab a cuppa and let's chat x

Love Sober Episode Sixty Six 14 02 2020

Love Sober Episode Sixty Six 14 02 2020

February 14, 2020

This week on the pod we are delighted to welcome Sam Quinlan, Founder of ICAAD. Sam is a real sobershero having worked in the field of mental health, addiction and recovery for many years.

Samantha once dreamed of being a performer; however a un-nurturing culture back in the 80s saw her being stigmatised as fat, and unsuitable to be a performer, after a performing arts school misused her vocal abilities, and she suffered from overused vocal cords, that ruined her voice and prospective career in musical theatre.

She went on to train at the Royal Academy of Dramatic Arts in production and stage management, and In the 1990s she began her mission to provide for others a nourishing and safe environment for creatives and those that had something to say, unlike her experience which left her full of shame and the burden of failure. Samantha founded the Brighton & Hove Fringe Festival, a yearly festival promoting talent and desire through arts, sports and outreach activities to include families and young people, reaching a wide audience and increasing the tourist footprint of the city. The festival is a leading event in the cultural calendar.

In 2001 after fighting her demons she acknowledged she was an alcoholic and sought treatment and has for the last 16 years been sober and drug-free and an active member of Alcoholics Anonymous. Samantha Quinlan has worked in the Behavioural Mental and Emotional Health sector for 15 years and is a founder of iCAAD. The International Conferences for Addiction and Associated Disorders, she programmes and directs conferences for professionals and the general public across Europe and the UK.

Samantha founded the Leading Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (LEAP) charity, alongside starting a residential addictions facility in 2003. She completed a foundation degree in general counselling in 2012. She is also a qualified facilitator of Equine Therapy. She has devised and delivered programs for vulnerable adults and young people, adolescents with extreme childhood trauma, workplace leadership and solutions and adults with learning disabilities.

Sam is committed to her personal development and leadership skills and regularly attends conferences and intensive courses, including the LCP at ONSITE workshops.

She sits as co-chair on the UFENow ethics committee as the co-chair to the “International Collaborative Committee (Cultural, Migration and International Ethical Issues)” and she is on the fundraising committee of International Animal Rescue.

In 2008 Samantha became a live kidney donor and today is happy to report the father to her children is alive and healthy, she believes this is nothing short of a miracle considering her history as an alcoholic and feels blessed that she has been able to be of services for the greater good.

Over the years Samantha has in her own time and as a volunteer, helped support 100s of people some referred to sober support, some treatment and others to therapists across all Behavioural Mental and Emotional health care issues. She reflects that when she needed help, she felt she was one of a lucky few and was able to access help without charge or bias, so today she strives to connect those in need to the right help or to signpost them to organisations that can help.

Samantha believes that many people in the UK do not know where they can go to get help and support but is hugely in favour of the sober movement and the stamping out of stigma she tries through iCAAD to offer clear signposts for those that are displaced, or struggling or isolated, and she hopes that through her work and iCAAD, that families and professionals may learn about and get the help they need. She would love for more of the general public to attend iCAAD x

In her spare time, she likes to build theatre sets and would one day love to perform again!

Sam would like to offer these  words of encouragement with other women in the world?

When the whole world looks dark and those around you can not find a good word to say about you, when their cruel words keep on digging deeper under your skin and when no one can see you are crumbling and screaming inside. Turn around and start walking, keep on walking until you face someone and say can you help me, and if at first you don’t get heard, don’t give up, keep on asking for help; eventually, you will be heard and held. I promise x

This episode is an absolute gem and we really encourage you to check out the amazing resources, blogs and conferences at www.icaad.com and Kate and Mandy will be presenting at ICAAD London, we would love to see you there, so grab a cuppa and let's chat.

 

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Five 06 02 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Five 06 02 20

February 7, 2020
This week’s podcast we talk about Self Love. It’s not easy to deconstruct the process of where we are now and where we were. To that place of deep self loathing and crippling low self worth. To both be able to say, I love myself and I am my own best friend.
 
For us the catalyst is and always has been stopping drinking that fundamental decision of self love, the consistency it has brought, the self-trust and pride is for us the key to self love. We talk about how guided meditation and working with a therapist can help, letting go of Shame and watching out for proof of the things we do well.
 
So grab a cuppa and let’s chat. 
 
Resources mentioned:
Calm - Self Love daily meditations.
Tara Brach - The Rain of Self compassion. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxfmarLIBo0
Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Four 31 01 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Four 31 01 20

January 31, 2020

This episode maybe what you technically call a rant lols. We just had to get something out and that’s Mum shaming.

It’s happened to so many of us, everyone seems to have an opinion about mothers, and everything seems to be laid at our doors, attachment, our kids mental health, mothers are under enormous pressure and we are trying our best to get it right, but what if there are huge gaps in this conversation? What if the conversation needs an update? What if what modern mothers need is support?

We know how impactful childhoods can be, but how about shifting to focus on everyone’s role? Societies role? How about women supporting women, and us moving towards a narrative that puts mothers in the firing line.

This is very much an opinion piece, but it’s our story and we don’t think we’re alone. So apologies for the swears, grab a cuppa and let’s chat.

 
Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Three 24 01 20

Love Sober Podcast Episode Sixty Three 24 01 20

January 24, 2020
This week we had the absolute pleasure of talking creativity and recovery with Tammi Salas. 
Tammi hasn’t had a drink since February 3, 2015. She is a former wine bar owner, lifelong seeker + recovering perfectionist. She is an artist, teacher, self-proclaimed late-bloomer and co-host of The Unruffled Podcast, a weekly podcast that explores all topics relating to the intersection of creativity and recovery. 

In sobriety, she re-enrolled in college and declared art as her major at age 44. She makes art everyday and credits this practice as the path to her spiritual overhaul and creative awakening.

Tammi has self-published a book all about finding her visual voice through her daily gratitude practice, which she’s maintained for over four years. And, she shares her creative and personal pursuits, as well as her struggles and successes with sobriety. You can learn more at www.tammisalas.com or follow her on Instagram @tammisalas.
 
Grab a cuppa and let’s chat, it’s a good one :-)

 

Links:
Instagram: @tammisalas